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Linda B. Findlay became a bereaved parent with the loss of her infant daughter,
Aubrie Marie. Linda lives in upstate New York with her husband, Bob and daughter, Julia. Linda
founded Mourning Discoveries, Grief Support Services in 1991. Since that time she has filled the role of
Aftercare Coordinator for funeral homes currently representing over 300 of them in 25 states and Canada. Linda
has also continually facilitated several bereavement support groups as a hospice volunteer and is an AARP Widowed Person Service
volunteer trainer and outreach provider. She is a member of the Death and Loss Education Coalition,
Inc. located in upstate NY. In a style reflecting compassion, personal loss, experience
by working with bereaved families, and special training, she effectively communicates with bereaved families. Through the
sharing of personal stories and professional experiences with both integrity and credibility, Linda provides valuable tools,
understanding, solid practical ways to help the bereaved.
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An excerpt from book one of The Family
Care Series™, written by Linda B. Findlay 
During the five days that followed the birth and death of our baby, we were told the following: You are young, you can have another baby! God must have wanted an angel in heaven! God wanted a
grandchild to give to your mother in heaven! These things are meant to be! Why
do you have to name, “IT”! It is suggested that you
get pregnant right away! You have to call a funeral home!!!!! (This is how grief and shock hits you;
I could not imagine why we would have to call a funeral home!) Some of
these things were told to us by well meaning friends and family! We
were in shock and devastated. We were in deep sorrow and despair. There were no answers, only questions and confusion, accompanied by great sorrow and
pain. The months that followed were terrible,
to say the least. Looking back, I did not have
the support that I needed. Not because nobody cared, but because nobody understood. |
Aubrey the song By: Bread And Aubrey was her name,
A not so very ordinary girl or name.
But who's to blame?
For
a love that wouldn't bloom
For the hearts that never played in tune.
Like a lovely melody that everyone can sing,
Take away the words that rhyme it doesn't mean a thing.
And Aubrey was her name.
We tripped the light
and danced together to the moon,
But where was June.
No it never came around.
If it did it never made a
sound,
Maybe I was absent or was listening too fast,
Catching all the words, but then the meaning going past,
But God I miss the girl,
And I'd go a thousand times around the world just to be
[ From: http://www.metrolyrics.com/aubrey-lyrics-bread.html ]
Closer to her than to me.
And Aubrey was her name,
I never knew her,
but I loved her just the same,
I loved her name.
Wish that I had found the way
And the reasons that would
make her stay.
I have learned to lead a life apart from all the rest.
If I can't have the one I want, I'll do
without the best.
But how I miss the girl
And I'd go a million times around the world just to say
She
had been mine for a day.
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